Girl Talk Podcast RECAP + Updates

20 12 2013

Hi loves,

I know I’m a little behind on the latest Girl Talk Podcast (trust me, you’ve let me know lol), but I figured now would be the perfect time to post all of the ones that have come before in case you haven’t had a chance to catch up on them. Don’t miss classics like, “Emotional Booty-Callers and Terrorists” and “Let’s Talk About Cheating,” or even our very first installment of the Aijuswannarant segment on “This Ish Just Aint Gon’ Work.”

Meanwhile, Erika, CJ, and I are in talks to get the next one posted early in the new year, and I hope you’re just as excited as we are about it. Plus, don’t forget that you can catch all the episodes on Girl Talk Podcast Itunes page as well, for free.99!

On another note — I’ll be taking a couple weeks off for the Christmas holiday and New Year, but the blog will be back up and running on Monday, January 6th! So this is the perfect time to not only catch up on the podcast episodes, but also on any blog posts you may have missed.

Merry Christmas/Happy Kwanzaa/Happy Holidays to you all and don’t forget to come back in the New Year!!




Girl Talk Episode 10 – Rules to the Hook-Up

27 09 2013

This is an episode you don’t want to miss, because my girls and I are giving you the rules to a hook-up, straight – no chaser in this one. Think you know what all those are already? Well go ahead and listen and see if we missed anything.

And don’t forget, you can check out this episode and all the previous episodes on Itunes and on the Girl Talk page of the blog.

So what are some rules you think would help make things less complicated for those interested in just hooking-up? And remember – we’re a no judgment zone over here!

Girl Talk Episode 9 – Emotional Bootycallers and Terrorists

26 07 2013

Hey now! We’re back with a new episode of the Girl Talk podcast, and this month, the girls and I are covering a pretty controversial topic — that of the emotional bootycaller or terrorist. Not sure what those are? Well then this is the podcast for you! And if you already know, then be sure to join our conversation about how horrible they are lol.

Also, we’ve decided to keep the Aijuswanarant segment in the podcast after rave reviews. So definitely listen and get your bi-monthly rant listening in. And don’t forget, you can check out this episode and all the previous episodes on Itunes and on the Girl Talk page of the blog.

PS: When this podcast was recorded, I didn’t have an Instagram account. Now, largely due to peer pressure, I do. YAY social media!

Girl Talk Episode 8 – This Ish Just Aint Gon’ Work!

31 05 2013

We’re baaaaaack! I know it’s been awhile, but as promised – the girl talk podcast is back. You’ll notice that two of your favorite guests are joining me this time and will actually join me on the podcast from now on. Also, there’s a new segment entitled AIJUSWANARANT (in the vein of Musiq Soulchild’s famous Aijuswanaseing) – so I hope you enjoy!!

And bonus – feel free to check out the episode (and all previous episodes) on Itunes here or on the Girl Talk Podcast page here.

So tell me, have any of you ever had that moment in a short relationship that made you just want to say – this ish ain’t gon’ work?

The Girl Talk Podcast – New and Improved!!

29 03 2013

I know it’s been a few months since I posted a new podcast episode, but I have great news!! (You knew there had to be a reason it’s been gone so long, right??) Well, I’m happy to announce that in the coming months, I’ll be premiering a new and improved version of the podcast that will feature two of your faves as standing guests. I’m so excited to show off our revised structure and look forward to discussing those thrilling, and sometimes controversial topics we like to cover when talking with our girls.

So be on the lookout! And in the meantime, Girl Talk is now available on Itunes as well as the regular stream from Podomatic on the blog. Be sure to check out any old episodes you may have missed and tell a friend!

Also, Choices, Voices, and Sole just got it’s own Facebook page! Click on the link or venture over to the sidebar and press the little “Like It” button. Can’t wait to see you on there!


Twelve in ’12 RECAP!

4 01 2013


Happy New Year Pumpkins!!! I totally hadn’t had a chance to say that yet to you guys, but I truly hope this first week has gone well for you and will be an indicator of great days to come.

And since I also hadn’t given you all an update on my progress from last year’s 12 goals, I’ll do that before we continue forward in the new year.

If you recall, my friends and I have taken to coming up with goals each year that correspond with the last 2 digits of that year. So there was Nine in ’09, Eleven in ’11, and then Twelve in ’12. For some reason, we skipped 2010. Oh wells. Anyway, here’s a recap on how well I did or didn’t do:

1.       Find another hobby outside of writing: Right. So this one didn’t go so well. I dabbled in a couple things, like hgtv-ing (meaning doing some home improvements, sewing, etc…) and even kind of got into taking some photos (for my job), but nothing really stuck. I have enjoyed the photography part, but I still think that’s a little too close to writing for my liking… I want to find something outside of the journalism/communications range. So I still have some work to do on this one. I also never made it to that painting class, so maybe there’s still some luck on that one.

2.       Do something for fun on my own at least once a month: COMPLETED! Some months were much harder than others, but somehow I managed to actually do this every month. Unfortunately, sometimes it kind of felt like a chore. I’d get to the 25th day of the month and remember I had to do something for myself and try to cram something in at the last minute. So you know, there’s still work to be done lol.

3.       Finish the decorative ideas I haven’t completed in my apt, such as covering the floor pillows, putting up more photos, etc…:
Not quite completed, but I did a lot more than I’d done before. I covered the pillows in my bedroom, started covering some of the pillows in my living room, and put up shelves in my dining room. I still need to cover the floor pillows and put up curtains in my bedroom, but I’d say I’m about half way there to making my place feel more like home. Now, I just need to get rid of some stuff…

4.       Lose another 20-25 lbs: Yea, so this one didn’t go so well. I lost about 13 at one point, and then unfortunately gained it all back. Le sigh.

5.       Complete the next step of the book process – find an agent: Not completed yet, but I’m getting closer. I can feel it y’all. I’ve revamped my book proposal and sent it off to some folks for feedback and I’ve gotten back to working on the book after getting discouraged a bit last year.

6.       Make a point to attend church at least once a month: Okay, so I didn’t make it EVERY month, but I made it like 90% of the time, and some months, I went a couple times, so I’m going to give myself a COMPLETED on this one.

7.       Increase savings by $3000: HA! Massive failure… one day y’all. One day.

8.       Learn French to the point that I can hold at least a beginning conversation: Well, I’d gotten really good at this earlier in the year. In fact, I did hold some conversations in French when I went to Paris, albeit very very short conversations. But since then, I haven’t taken the time to study as much as I should. Still, I’m getting there… so I’m going to say PARTIALLY COMPLETED on this one.

9.       Take at least 2 trips that are not for someone else: COMPLETED! I went to Atlantic City and London and Paris (just because I wanted to, not because I had to do something when I got there). I’m trying to continue this one this year with plans to go to Chicago and do a road trip through Cali that ends in Vegas (but I also have SEVERAL obligation trips this year, so we’ll see what happens.)

10.   Do a bi-monthly podcast for the blog: Massively COMPLETED! I even managed to do more than a bi-monthly podcast; it came out almost every month once I got it started. I may scale it back to a bi-monthly for 2013, but this has been a huge success.

11.   With dating especially, work towards just enjoying the moment and not over-analyzing everything (except for blog purposes):
COMPLETED! This was one of the more important goals for me and I think, largely, I managed to make it work. There were, of course, times when it was harder to not over-analyze, but I always had this goal in the back of my mind and it pretty much set me straight throughout the year. It felt really good by the end of the year to begin making decisions that I was at peace with and also noticed that I wasn’t beating myself up over things that didn’t work out.

12. Each month, watch one movie about the black experience or with a black cast made before 2000s: OMG! This was so hard!!! You can’t begin to imagine how depressing so many black experience movies are. Le sigh. Anyway, I missed October, but I watched Shaka Zulu in December and that should count for 3 months. COMPLETED!

Looks like I didn’t do too badly. How was your 2012? And what are you looking forward to in 2013?

For a more detailed report, feel free to read Twelve in ’12 at your leisure.

Girl Talk Episode 7: How to Know if You’re on a Date

31 12 2012

So it’s not quite “bright and early Monday morning,” but it’s still Monday, December 31st, right?! And this month’s podcast looks at what a few of us consider dating and also how women and men can know when they’re actually on the date. Didn’t know that was a question? Well, listen in and see what we had to say.

Feel free to join in on the discussion in the comments section below. And don’t forget, you can check out the previous podcasts by clicking the Girl Talk Podcast tab at the top.