GUEST POST: Don’t Ignore the Signs

26 06 2014


Today’s guest blogger comes to us from the blog, Michelle’s Motivation. Michelle is a single, Christian woman whose passion is to encourage others to pursue their goals in life, using the word of GOD as their guide. Her belief is that anything is possible with faith and hard work. You can check out her blog by clicking the link attached to it and/or follow her on Twitter @msmdawson. She is also available by email for speaking engagements.


By Michelle, Guest Blogger

One of the top priorities for parents is to ensure that they train their children to be responsible and mature adults, including teaching them how to distinguish between right and wrong. The expectation is once you’ve reached adulthood, you will make good choices in life. The bible says, “Train up a child in the way that he should go and when he gets older, he will not depart.” (Proverbs 22:6) Yet, based on all of the information taught to us during our developmental stages, why is it that we still have a hard time accepting that some people, places and things, just may not be good for us?

I can’t say that dating has always been my strong suit. I’m not the woman who enjoys going out with a guy just for the free meal and the experience. For me, if I decide to invest time into a guy, there has to be something about him that attracted me, both from his physical attributes and his personality. First impressions are lasting. The downside to first impressions is the only thing you learn about a person is what they want you to know. Most people attempt to put their best foot forward, even if that foot is artificial.

I, like most women, have found myself making bad choices when it comes to the dating scene. For most of us, we know from an initial conversation whether we want to get to know more about a person. But, even when the red flags are present, we still decide to give someone a chance. Sometimes, we get so caught up in looks, we totally dismiss a persons inability to communicate effectively. There are even moments when we meet someone at church, and instantly believe they are HEAVEN SENT! LOL! For all types of reasons, we entertain the opposite sex, knowing that they aren’t right for us.

I’m sure, by now, you have begun to think about the dating/relationship choices you’ve made that may not have been the best. Whether it was dating a person that showed all of the signs that he/she wasn’t the one for you; getting involved too soon after a breakup or just choosing to be with someone to avoid loneliness, each of those decisions were not given careful thought, consideration or prayer! For some reason, we can see the signs of “danger”, but we overlook them, ignore them or just decide to accept them. We have all been guilty of overlooking things that are in plain sight.

I’m not sure if fear or desire entices us to make the wrong choices, but today I encourage you to stop ignoring the obvious, especially when you know that it could cause you more harm than good. Take a good look at the path you are on and ask yourself, “Is this the best decision for my life?” When you don’t know whether someone is good for you or not, PRAY! The bible says, “lean not to your own understanding, but in all your ways, acknowledge Him and He will direct your path.” He will always order your steps and lead you towards His best.

My advice is “don’t ignore the signs.” GOD wants His best for us and we shouldn’t accept anything less. If the choices you have made in life are not leading towards a prosperous, productive and peaceful life, it’s time to re-examine those choices and pray for direction.

What do you all think? Have you ever ignored the warning signs that a guy or girl wasn’t right for you? If so, why?




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