“I want somebodyyyyy to walk up behind meeeee, and kiss me on my neck, and breaaaathe on my neck.” – Erykah Badu
There are certain things are universally considered intimate. I think by now, you all know I would place cuddling at the very top of this list. At the VERY top. But in case you don’t feel like clicking on those links or have never heard my theory on cuddling before, let’s just say that I treat cuddling like some guys treat kissing. Sure it’s great – wonderful, in fact… but the mere act of having someone envelope my body with theirs, in a manner where I can feel and hear his heart beat and have his body heat taking over my natural coldness…. that’s an intimate ass process. You may not agree, but most people do – so I say cuddling is universally accepted as intimate.
But… there are some things that you may not realize how intimate they are until you’ve actually done them. Here are a couple I think fit that bill.
Kissing on the neck/below the ear area
At first thought, this act sounds more sexual than anything, right? I’m sure you’ve seen it in the movies or on television and it’s usually followed by the two people moving right along into making out and then sex. But when it actually happens to you… when a guy comes up behind you while you’re brushing your teeth and kisses you on the back of your neck – that’s intimate. It doesn’t always lead to sex, but I guarantee you it will lead to you closing your eyes and possibly leaning back on him… almost like standing up cuddling. UGH! lol
Holding hands as an adult
When you’re a kid (read: teenager), holding someone’s hand is significant because you’re basically letting your world know this is my boo. But when you’re an adult – it’s less about the people around you and more about the connection between the two of you. Have you ever been in the room or car or wherever alone with a guy and have him reach out his hand to hold yours? If so, you know what I mean. That moment where you accept and put your hand in his, it’s not a moment you forget. OR have you ever been holding someone’s hand and have him lightly rub inside the palm of your hand? It’s one of those quiet intimate moments between you and that guy – and don’t even get me started on if it’s done while cuddling. Double whammy. lol
The forehead kiss
There’s something innocent, but not so innocent when a man kisses you on your forehead. It’s reassuring, but still sexy. We all saw how much trouble they got into about the forehead kiss on The Best Man, and I know a certain blogger who puts this activity where I put cuddling. I can’t tell you why it’s so intimate – but trust me, once you have it done to you… you’ll know instantly.
The bear hug
Part of the greatness about the bear hug with a man is that it’s not sexual at all, but with the right man and the right hug – you’ll want to drop your panties (and everything else you have on) instantly. I’m sure it has a lot to do with the fact that it gives you a sense of security even for a moment and it may have to do with Mandy’s theory that everyone wants to be held in some way (no matter how much we deny it).
What do you all think? Have I missed any other activities that are more intimate than they initially seem?