Millionare Matchmaker

7 06 2009

I know I’ve been on a bit of a hiatus, but I’m coming hard this week (only to disappear next week while I’m on vacation… but focus on the “I’m coming hard this week” part lol). Anyway, to kick it off… I had to share an interview I recently read that was with the famed Millionaire Matchmaker.


Here, she gives 6 mistakes women make when dating to Glamour. I can already tell you that I’ve been a victim of a few of them. How about you?

1. They go on too many unproductive dates.
“It’s better not to date unless you’re out of practice. If you know how to date, and you’re meeting losers, get off the market, and go into dating detox. Clean your energy up so those people don’t ask you out any more. The problem is we women are very impatient. We want it now. Instant gratification! Sometimes the best guys are worth waiting for. You might get one good date a year, versus 100 bad ones, but he’s worth it.” OH BOY, do I have a story to tell you guys! In fact, it’s coming this week… but needless to say, I learned the hard way how right she was about this one lol

2. They go out with their girlfriends in the hopes of meeting guys.
“When you’re with your girlfriends, you’re not approachable. They’re scared. Men are very timid. I have this theory: Women who travel in packs do not attract. Men who are quality aren’t going to go in there and ask you out while your girlfriends are standing right there — he could get shot down. So it’s a really good idea, at about 4 or 4:30 P.M., to go to the bar: Sit at the bar, have a cocktail, get an hors d’oeuvre, read a mutual-gender book like The Da Vinci Code, know the score on TV, and pretend you’re busy. You’re reading a book, you’re eating an hors d’oeuvre, you’re meeting a friend — and then you’re more approachable because you’re by yourself.”

3. They think a guy will always like them if he just gets to know them.
“A guy knows right away if he’s attracted to you or not. There’s no warming up. Men are microwaves, women are Crockpots. Women heat up very slowly. They take in information; they decipher it and download it onto their computer. Men know in one second, yes or no.” Well, I’ve talked about this before… a guy knows what Category you fall into from the moment he meets you… not 10 weeks later. If he says he doesn’t know, that’s just the nice way of saying you’re not the one…

4. They overshare on the date.
“Women are so trusting that they tell too much information about themselves. They pump and dump — they baggage dump! They say, ‘Oh, I had two cocktails, I’m all relaxed, now he’s my best friend and I can tell him whatever Imillionaire-matchmaker want.’ They’re nervous, they drink too much, and they tell their life story — and sometimes their life story is not a good story to tell.”

5. They don’t let the guy talk enough.
“The way you talk on a date should be like a tennis match, but the guy should talk three times as often. It should be 3:1. He volleys, volleys, volleys, now you talk. You can answer the question every time he volleys, but then you lead him with your question, and it should be topical to the conversation he’s having. You don’t say, ‘Hey, do you want to get married? Hey, what’s your ex-girlfriend like? Hey, are you a drinker?’ You don’t do that. You lead with what he’s talking about.”

6. They forget their manners.
“The key to a good date is to smile. Engage with eye contact. Let him lead and then you compliment little things along the way. If he orders the dessert and you guys share it, say, ‘Oh, this is the best chocolate mousse, I’m so glad you picked this.’ Manners are key. Most people do not have manners.”

What about you? Have you found yourself doing any of these? If so, please… share lol. I’ll be sharing my story soon, so really, it’s kind of only fair…. right?




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